Father’s Day was last Sunday and I saw a lot of posts on Facebook of people talking about the wonderful things their father’s taught them. I never comment under those kinds of posts because I can’t seem to find something good to say. I guess this isn’t going to be one of those posts either. lol
I was working on finalizing a project today and was beating myself up because I wanted to launch it by this Friday, but once I sat down and started mapping out how I was going to advertise it I realized I didn’t know a thing about advertising with Facebook or Instagram. When I started to do research I found many classes that teach about this topic. However, hours of classes didn’t fit in with my launch date. A sinking feeling welled up in my stomach. I began to do that negative self talk thing. It went a little something like this…
“You still need to learn Facebook ads. Ugh! How long is that going to take?”
“There is still so much to do before you can launch this! You don’t want to launch it without having all the pieces together. I still need a sales page, a way to collect money, an automatic email responder, and…and..and…”
“Two days isn’t enough time to prepare ads and get people to come.”
“You haven’t even opened Zoom Meetings to get acclimated. Ugh! How long is that gonna take to learn?”
“You’re taking too long to do this!”
And on and on…until something stuck out in all the chatter.
“If you do it right the first time, you won’t have to do it over again”
Damn! Do you know how many ass whooping’s I got as a kid because I didn’t do it right the first time? Mind you, sometimes we were only shown once and expected to remember. Trust me, I had enough ass whoopin’s for me to believe that every time I did something it had to be perfect and done my way because I didn’t want to fail. “If it wasn’t done right then it must be half assed.” At least that is what my dad use to say.
Having that belief since childhood has held me back from completing tasks in a timely manor and/or not finishing at all because I couldn’t do it right the first time. I also didn’t try new things if I was unsure if I could be perfect at it the first time. Failure wasn’t an option and it left me with…well…little options.
I want to change that belief. I want to fail as many times as is necessary for me to learn something fully. I want to take action and just do it.
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